Don’t Believe Everything You Think.
Rene’ Descartes the 17th century philosopher, in his famous quote stated, “I think therefore I am.” I am not sure what Descartes meant, but perhaps he meant, in thinking we become ourselves.
Our thinking brain is truly a miracle of uncanny brilliance. From current time into the distant past, humans have used their brains to solve untold mysteries of our natural world. Our brains have developed, discovered, built, and created civilization.
The worst thing in the world is trying to sleep and not to. F. Scott Fitzgerald
Not sleeping for a night or two is maddening, but not sleeping night after night is treacherous.
The experience of struggling to get to sleep or waking during the night and not getting back to sleep or both, can cause feelings of frustration, hopelessness, and irritability, and is associated with physical and mental health issues.
The increased use of sleep aides,
Anthem
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in . . .
Anthem by Leonard Cohen
Leonard Cohen is a poet, song writer, musician, and much more.
This is the first of several informational pieces on perfectionism.
On the occasion I happen to ask someone if they are a perfectionist, the response varies from a strong “. . . no,” to a strong “. . . yes,” to “. . . I know that perfection isn’t realistic, but I guess I do aim for it.” This is often followed with the disclaimer, “But, I’m not a perfectionist in everything I do.”
Perfectionism is not about being perfect.
Conflict between people in intimate relationships can flare up for many reasons, but how people interact during that conflict may create more problems than the actual issue they are in conflict over.
The following are some typical ways couples attempt to deal with conflict.
Compromising Style
Compromise is to adjust or concede your position. At its best, compromise is a style that may work, as long as, both people are compromising.
Traits That May Perpetuate Anxiety
There are many positive traits people with anxiety share.
But, in his book, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, Edmund J. Bourne, Ph.D. states, there are four traits which may perpetuate anxiety.
Do any of the above sound familiar?
Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! Dr. Seuss
What is belly breathing?
Why is belly breathing important? How does belly breathing work? What is the connection between anxiety and breathing?
Belly breathing is a breathing practice that allows more oxygen into the lungs. Of course, we don’t actually breathe into our belly. But when expanding the belly as we inhale, we allow the diaphragm to relax and move downward. With the relaxation of the diaphragm, our lungs are given ample space to expand and take in more air.
Three Fair Fighting Tools
When we get into an argument with our closest companion, the rules of how to communicate or how to avoid making things worse, seem to fly out the window. We all think we are right (at least part of the time), and we want to get our chance to talk.
So, here are three suggestions that may help in times of need.
The following order does not confer preference.
http://www.jocrf.org/ Johnson O’Connor Aptitude Testing and Research since 1922, in San Francisco. If you are college bound or changing careers, this is a great resource for you.
www.loveandlogic.com For parents with children of all ages.
www.cci.health.wa.gov.au A treasure trove of self-help modules.
www.asch.net American Society of Clinical Hypnosis is an excellent source of information about the use of hypnosis in medicine and psychology,
